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In three words I can sum up everything I've learned about LOVE: DO NOT EXPECT FUTURE AND PERFECTION. I really have to thank to a person who are teaching this precious lesson to me. Although its not physically teaching me, but from other view of angle, i get the message. Thanks a lot.

Why i said so. When we expect future in a relationship, instead of prolong the relationship, we are destroying the relationship. Once we expect future, we will give a lot of commitment, we will give a lot of pressure to that person we love and so on! Besides that, once we expect future in the particular relationship, we will sometimes forgot, ignore and not appreciate when we're together with that person. Sooner or later, it will end up with nothing.

Love and business is totally different stuff. Business require FULL of control of it to maximize profit. But love, please don't intent to control it or control that person. Because the person is NOT belongs to you although he/she is in relationship with you. if we want control, please control ourself, not others. If we want manage, MANAGE ourself.

We only give commitment to that person unless he or she is engaged or married with you. If before that, if you don't have the effort to do so, please don't give any commitment. If you have the effort also, PLEASE DON'T SAID SO. Appreciate when the happiness period together.

Marriage is not an easy task, marriage is not a game. Its require mature mental attitude and character. And also financial independent. Marriage require heavily commitment.

In this universe, everything in life has a certain natural rhythm or vibration. We cannot force something to formed what our mind thought of. You are you, me is me, what our mind thought of is not same what they are think about. So anything future about your relationship, please leave it to god. Let's god judge for you. Don't intent to do change it or force it yourself. Still the same word: If he/she not belongs to you, no matter how much effort we put in, its still not yours.

In conclusion, i can sum up a word for a happy relationship: UTAR

mutual U-nderstandinng
mutual T-rust
               AND
mutual R-espect

So please, don't expect future of your relationship. Adverse, we should appreciate what have go through and the precious time when together, try to do the best to understanding he/she more.